Seven Different Sexualities: Where Do You Fit In?

As they say, sexuality is a spectrum. There is an abundance of sexual orientations between males and females. Some identities are not even on the same plane. Each one has unique characteristics, sexual behavior, and needs. Depending on the gender, those desires can be satisfied by other people, by sex toys, sex dolls, sex robots, or even by themselves. 

Understanding yourself is essential for your psychological well-being. There is no better way to self-discovery than understanding your sexuality. 

Seven Different Sexualities: Where Do You Fit In?

There are many labels you can identify with. You may not like having one for yourself, and that is understandable. However, identifying with at least one orientation could help you find people who share the same feelings as you. They could provide support in your journey to explore sexuality. 

Whether you like a label for yourself or not, it is never a bad idea to know what the terminologies mean. In your life, you would meet people who say they are part of this specific community or the other community. You may get confused and not get what they are saying. Worse, you may say things that they would consider offensive. Of course, you would not want them to have the wrong impression of you. Therefore, studying the labels will do you more good than bad.

With that out of the way, let us proceed with the list.


A monosexual person is someone who can only experience sexual and romantic attraction to people of one gender. For example, a man who is only interested in women is monosexual. Aside from heterosexuals, people who feel same-sex attraction can also be monosexual. Lesbians, for instance, are only attracted to women. Following the logic, they are, indeed, monosexuals.


From the prefix bi-, meaning two, bisexuals are people who can experience attraction to both males and females. That is only the traditional meaning of the term, however.

Over time, we gain a better understanding of sexuality. The perception of bisexuality evolved along with it. Now, the term refers to the capability to experience attraction to people of the same and different gender. It does not necessarily mean to male and female. The new “criteria” is one gender should be the same as that of the person. Then, the other could be any other gender that the person does not identify with. So, it could be combinations of male and trans male, female and pansexual, and many others. Also, they can be attracted to more than two genders.

In a way, you can say that bisexuality is the same as being polysexual, multisexual, or spectrasexual.

Polysexuality and Multisexuality pertain to attraction towards more than one gender. Likewise, a spectrasexual person is someone who is attracted to many genders, but not to all of them.

Seven Different Sexualities: Where Do You Fit In?


This type of sexuality is the most fluid and inclusive among all genders. A pansexual person can experience sexual and romantic attraction to people of any sex or gender. The prefix of “pan” came all the way from a Greek root word that means ”all”. This term is sometimes interchange with the word “bisexual” but many agree that they are not the same.

Pansexual and bisexual people might be similar in some way but that is not the case for all. In a broader term, bisexuals are people attracted to two or more types of gender but not necessarily all. On the other hand, pansexuals are drawn to all types of gender may it be transgender, transexual, demisexual, or other pansexual.

However, some misconceptions are roaming around about them. Others think people with this type of gender impose transient relationships with others. Some people assume that they are into polygamy. Yet, this is all a hoax. Being attracted to all genders is not equivalent to having multiple partners.


This type of sexuality is maybe the most interesting, among others. Asexuality, contrary to the countless classification of genders, has little to no interest in any sexual attraction. Some say that this is their sexual orientation but others claim that they are lacking it.

Anyway, they often do not make use of any sex dolls, sex robots, or sex toys to satisfy themselves. Although they are not interested in these things, they do not abstain from any sexual interaction. Asexuality is just an orientation after all.


Also known as gray-a, gray-ace, or grey-ace, gray sexuality refers to sexual orientation whereas people define themselves as asexual but not quite. It might be confusing sometimes but it represents the gray area between sexual and asexual.

One of the precise characteristics of gray-asexuals is being ignorant of sexual desires when choosing a partner. They also have the duality of loving sex only on specific conditions and not at all. Either way, this type of asexuality is not that hard to determine especially if you have an acquaintance with this type of gender.


With the connection to the previous category, demisexuality is often mistaken for asexuals and gray-asexuals. They are the group of individuals who require strong emotional attachment first before giving into sexual intercourse. This orientation has a more concrete definition from the others because of consistency in their preferences.

Demisexuals, in general, choose first to invest time and feelings in any type of gender before being romantic for someone. The prefix “demi” means half by the way and could mean midway through asexual and sexual as well.


Do you know Narcissus? He is a famous hunter in Greek mythology who fixated upon his appearance and characteristics. He eventually fell in love in his reflection and kept staring at himself in his lifetime. Autosexuals are quite similar to him. The difference is they are not really refraining from being attracted to others. They just love to enjoy themselves more.

Seven Different Sexualities: Where Do You Fit In?

Their level of narcissism can be described as being sexually aroused to themselves, dreams about themselves, prefer masturbation to sex, and at times the rejection from others. 

Sexuality has a lot more to offer

You cannot contain sexuality in just mere seven classifications but at least you are aware of the basics. This can probably give you an idea of how broad this topic is. But the important this is, you are now informed of what each orientation may entail. Each classification has its own meaning and distinct characteristics over the others. Nonetheless, these should help you otherwise in exploring your sexuality or discussing them with others.

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